ADHD is not easy to live with. No one will argue otherwise.
But what if ADHD weren't a disability but a gift? Would we feel better about ADHD and its effects if we could see it as something sought after, or even desirable? Would that be a good thing to do, to put a spin on the way we see ADHD? Or would that just be a little game we play with ourselves, a way of looking for the rainbow after the rain or the silver-lining in the cloud? After all, ADHD is a recognized mental disorder, according to the DSM-V. It's not fun. And if it weren't a disorder, we wouldn't treat it with medication, or request special help for our children so they can get an education.Should we make light of a disorder?
Should we be making light of that? Minimizing the impact of that idea? Besides, isn't that a bit, well, dishonest? How could it be a good thing to lie about a disability? On the other hand, those of us with ADHD look to famous people who have the condition for inspiration. People like Channing Tatum, Justin Timberlake, and Terry Bradshaw. We look at them and think, "If they could do all that with ADHD, then I can do it, too!" Maybe rising to the top in spite of ADHD means more than rising to the top without it. In that sense, you could call ADHD a challenge rather than an obstacle. A challenge that makes achievement more sweet, perhaps more meaningful. Take Olympic gold medal winner Michael Phelps, for instance. Phelps wrote a book about succeeding in spite of ADHD. When Im focused, there is not one single thing, person, anything that can stand in the way of my doing something," said Phelps. "There is not. If I want something bad enough, I feel Im gonna get there.Hyperfocus and Drive
Now what does that sound like? It sounds like drive. It sounds like hyperfocus. It sounds like something you need to succeed. And it sounds like ADHD. Michael Phelps' book, by the way, is entitled, No Limits: The Will to Succeed. Because as we all know, people with ADHD have trouble limiting their behavior. They're impulsive. If they want to do something, they will do it right now, and no one is going to get in their way. And as it happens, that is just the sort of attitude one needs to become a champion. Michael Phelps is convinced of that. ADHD did not stop him from getting gold medals. On the contrary, Phelps credits ADHD with helping him realize his dreams. Couldn't someone with ADHD then, reasonably conclude the condition need not serve as an impediment to reaching the top? Couldn't one go further then, and say that ADHD might even serve as a catalyst for attaining greatness and fame? Perhaps the bigger question to ask is this: would Phelps, Channing Tatum, Justin Timberlake, and Terry Bradshaw be where they are today without ADHD? Did ADHD give these celebrities a leg up in attaining their greatness, their fame? Is it reasonable to conclude that ADHD helped them more than it hindered them? If you agree that this might be the case, let's now take this one step further: what if they hadn't had ADHD. Would they be where they are today? Could it be true then, that ADHD is something to covet? Could there be a gift there, lurking in the nasty, no-good, very bad condition that is ADHD?True ADHD Comes With Impairment
Not according to Ann Abramowitz, PhD, an Emory University psychologist. In an article for Web MD, Abramowitz serves her truth straight up, "If a child has ADHD symptoms but is not impaired, we don't diagnose ADHD. There's some plain talk for you: ADHD, far from being a gift, is an impairment. It's something that's wrong with you. Something that needs fixing, something that requires help. By the way, in case you're wondering about her CV's, Abramowitz headed up Emory's Center for Learning and Attention Deficit Disorders for over a decade. Her credibility is sterling. And still, you'll find other experts who completely disagree with Abramowitz. Take child psychologist Lara Honos-Webb, PhD, for instance. Honos-Webb wrote a book, The Gift of ADHD. She won't call ADHD a brain "disorder." She insists that ADHD is only a brain "difference." She sees all these amazing qualities that are specific to ADHD, for instance:- Creativity
- Exuberance
- Emotional expressiveness
- Interpersonal intuition
- A special relationship with nature
- Leadership
Flipside of Something Positive
Still there are those who see this idea as utter hogwash. Behavioral-developmental pediatrician Lawrence Diller, MD, for instance, the guy who wrote Remembering Ritalin."Impulsivity can be seen as spontaneity, and hyperactivity could be vitalitybut . . . once you go beyond the mild, ADHD is the flipside of something positive. The children's struggles with family, schools, and peers diminish the positiveness of it."
He's right. It's certainly true that people with ADHD suffer aplenty. They suffer in school. They suffer at home. They suffer in their relationships. They have trouble remembering things, staying organized. They get antsy. They overeat. ADHD is no picnic. But Honos-Webb says that focusing on the bad traits of ADHD is simply the wrong focus, especially for those who have ADHD. People with ADHD, she says, should be finding and focusing on their gifts. She says that we should think of the "Gift of ADHD" as an intervention." Just by finding and focusing on gifts, people change in positive, noticeable ways. They feel better because of improved confidence and motivation," says Honos-Webb. "They are not focused on having a disorder that contributes to them feeling like something is wrong with them. They experience real world resultsincluding better grades, higher income for entrepreneurs, better work reviews, and marriages that go from difficult challenges to highly satisfying."Seeing ADHD as a Gift
Is that, could that be true? Could just seeing ADHD as a gift (even if it isn't) produce better academic and life outcomes? It sure would be great to know, considering the fact that so many people with ADHD experience difficulties in school and in the work force and with their relationships, too. It would be wonderful if just finding and focusing on the "gifts" could alleviate some of these quite serious issues.Could just seeing ADHD as a gift (even if it isn't) produce better academic and life outcomes?It makes sense that having a positive mindset and looking for the good inside the bad would improve one's situation, whether that situation involves ADHD or any other challenge. Anyone who has ever served as a mentor can relate to this idea. (Which is how this author arrived at this topic.) The rate of ADHD diagnosis is increasing. That may be because we are better at spotting the condition than once upon a time. We now know that girls with ADHD go quiet. And we know that boys with ADHD aren't just a "little wild." We are way past that.