There are at least two ways in which teaching and parenting are similar: Teaching styles and parenting styles both affect social, educational, and psychological outcomes. Both teachers and parents can make or ruin lives. Great teachers can make magic happen. They can make students put their best foot forward.
Here are 11 things parents can learn from great teachers:
1 | Quit making excuses for your kids
Protecting our kids comes naturally, but constantly making excuses for them does more harm than good. Evidence suggests that expecting too little from your kids can condemn them to a life of underachievement. Moreover, children are more likely to succeed when parents set great expectations (not too high and not too low). Do your child a favor and banish low expectations. We need to take off our rose-colored glasses when we should.2 | Go back to the drawing board
One thing every teacher knows is that things don’t always go as planned. You’ll have this great lesson all lined up only to be met with uninterested students who couldn’t care less. This also happens in parenting. Sometimes you’ll try everything and nothing will work. Have a back-up plan. Try something different. Don’t give up.3 | Parent with a plan
It is only after you become a parent that you discover the advice “you’ll know what to do” isn’t always true. The parenting journey has its fair share of hard lessons. Half the time, you have no clue as to how you ought to react, and the other half you’re busy “putting out fires.” A great teacher has a plan about what she wants to achieve. She has clear objectives. She teaches in a way that reflects those objectives. Don’t let your parenting style be guided by external forces. Consciously decide on what parenting means for you, and parent in a way that reflects those values.4 | Create a sense of belonging
Everyone yearns for a sense of belonging. Children behave better when they feel that they matter and their opinions and feelings matter. Much evidence suggests that children raised by democratic parents perform better academically and are less prone to turn to socially destructive behavior such as drug abuse. Identify your non-negotiables, and be willing to negotiate on the rest. Families in which negotiation is common are more likely to enjoy positive parent-child relationships. One study suggests the children in these families are more likely to be better behaved than in families where parents are permissive or authoritarian. Show your child respect. Listen from the heart.5 | Fill up your “effective discipline toolbox”
There’s no one way to effectively discipline kids. An approach that works with one kid can fail miserably with another, so find your discipline technique. Discipline, rather than punish, your children. Some studies have found that raising children in punitive environments (harsh verbal and corporal punishment) can lead to lower confidence, drug abuse, and lower social and academic competence.6 | Walk the talk
As Bandura’s studies have shown, children learn by watching and imitating specific behavior from those they consider to be their models. Children, especially young ones, primarily learn by watching their parents. Be the parent you want your child to be. If you want your son to be respectful, show him respect. If you want your daughter to start saving, let her see you save. If you want your children to adopt voluntary simplicity, get rid of all the stuff you no longer need.7 | Move closer
Every teacher knows that the quickest and most foolproof way to get misbehaving kids to behave is to move closer. This works just as well when it comes to parenting. Moving closer and getting to your child’s eye level can do wonders for your parenting:- It can put an end to constantly having to repeat yourself
- It can make you yell less
- It can restore your sanity
