When it comes to parenting frustrations, nothing beats the challenges of setting screen limits, picking appropriate media, and figuring out Snapchat. We're raising "digital natives" but we're supposed to be the experts? Actually, no. It turns out, the most effective way to help your kid have a healthy relationship to media is by being their media mentor. Many of us think we need to have all the answers. Or we just stick our heads in the sand and hope for the best. But, as so often happens, the middle road is juuuuust right. Researcher Alexandra Samuel surveyed 10,000 North American families and found that some parents put strict limits ("limiters") on what their kids could watch or play, especially when young, while others, especially parents of teens, let their kids control screen time and embrace the idea that more tech is good tech ("enablers"). But about a third of the parents – whom she calls "media mentors" – consistently engaged in media with their kids, despite their ages, and these kids had better outcomes. Kids of media mentors were less likely to access porn, chat online with a stranger, and impersonate an adult or peer online. Exactly what you're hoping for as a parent, right? So what does it take to be a "media mentor"?
Talk about media and tech
Here's where most parents are #winning. In the 2015Common Sense Census: Media Use by Tweens and Teens, 87 percent of tweens reported that their parents regularly discussed Internet safety. These conversations can include everything from stranger danger to creating strong passwords. They be empowering rather than scary.
Play, watch, and learn together
Media mentors play video games, watch movies, and download apps with their kids. They share their favorite YouTube videos and explore new music together. It's not all the time, of course – who has time for that? – but staying engaged and showing interest breeds comfort and camaraderie.
Teach new skills
Kids with tech-savvy parents have some advantages when getting up to speed on digital life. Parents can introduce kids to specialized websites and explain the ins and outs of Instagram. But that doesn't mean the rest of us have nothing to offer. Show your kids, especially young ones, how to use a mouse, do a Google search, charge a device, and so on. Children's librarians are another tech resource, too.
Follow their interests
You know what your kid is into, whether it's dinosaurs, "Minecraft", or Taylor Swift. You can use these interests to support positive engagement with media and tech. Find cool dinosaur apps, sign your kid up for a "Minecraft" coding camp, or take a digital music-making class together.
Do your research
High-quality content makes a difference in how kids interact with media. Parents who seek out good content by checking reviews, surveying friends, and exploring content themselves expose their children to better media. Written by Sierra Filucci for Common Sense Media.
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When it comes to parenting frustrations, nothing beats the challenges of setting screen limits, picking appropriate media, and figuring out Snapchat. We're raising "digital natives" but we're supposed to be the experts? Actually, no. It turns out, the most effective way to help your kid have a healthy relationship to media is by being their media mentor. Many of us think we need to have all the answers. Or we just stick our heads in the sand and hope for the best. But, as so often happens, the middle road is juuuuust right. Researcher Alexandra Samuel surveyed 10,000 North American families and found that some parents put strict limits ("limiters") on what their kids could watch or play, especially when young, while others, especially parents of teens, let their kids control screen time and embrace the idea that more tech is good tech ("enablers"). But about a third of the parents – whom she calls "media mentors" – consistently engaged in media with their kids, despite their ages, and these kids had better outcomes. Kids of media mentors were less likely to access porn, chat online with a stranger, and impersonate an adult or peer online. Exactly what you're hoping for as a parent, right? So what does it take to be a "media mentor"?
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