Adopting a holistic approach to parenting means being aware of all the aspects of your child’s development. It means making informed and conscious parenting choices. Below are eight tips that may help you adopt a holistic approach to parenting.
It is widely accepted that children learn best by doing and through trial and error. Being too quick to rescue your kids can make them get accustomed to the fact that there will always be someone to smooth out difficult patches. While there is a strong link between parental intervention and children’s well-being, research shows that being over-responsive to children can be counterproductive.
One study found that inappropriate parental intervention could lead kids to develop greater anxiety and stress and could even lead them to develop ineffective coping skills in adulthood.
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Much evidence suggests that children raised by democratic parents have better social, academic, and psychological outcomes. These children are also less likely to turn to socially destructive behavior such as drug abuse. Being democratic means allowing your child to participate in family decisions. It means encouraging him to express his opinions even if you do not agree with them. Democratic parenting means being willing to be flexible and to negotiate when possible.
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Voluntary simplicity revolves around the idea that much of life’s satisfaction can be obtained through immaterial things. According to Duane Elgin, voluntary simplicity is “a deliberate choice to live with less.”
There is evidence that teaching kids about voluntary simplicity spurs creativity.
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Most of a child’s behavior can be defined by emotions: anger, frustration, fear, sadness, etc. Teaching your child to identify and respond in an appropriate manner to difficult emotions has many benefits. Indeed, children who have been taught to identify and address their emotions have better social relationships, fewer behavioral problems, and better academic outcomes. They are also less likely to turn to violence.
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Eleanor Roosevelt said, “I think, at a child’s birth, if a mother could ask a fairy godmother to endow it with the most useful gift, that gift should be curiosity.”
Curiosity is one of the ways in which openness is manifested. Contrary to popular belief, curiosity is not innate; if it is not stimulated, it dies. Curiosity has been tied to many benefits. Some studies have found that there is a strong relationship between curiosity, intelligence, and scholastic aptitude. Other studies have found that curiosity enhances creativity and is as important as intelligence in determining academic outcomes.
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Negotiation is a powerful family conflict management tool. Some studies suggest that families in which negotiation is common enjoy better parent-child relationships. Moreover, the children in these families have better social, academic and psychological outcomes.
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Although money is a taboo subject for many parents, teaching your child about the value of money at an early age provides her with important tools to navigate adult life. Research has shown that by the time kids turn seven, they've already formed money habits. However, the researchers found that the best way to teach children money matters was to use real life situations because young children are unable to understand abstract financial contexts.
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Some researchers have found that although self-acceptance is possibly the key to a happier life, it is one of the habits practiced least. Teaching children to develop a positive image of themselves is one of parents’ fundamental roles. While it might be difficult to help children develop positive self-talk, how you speak to your child can have an impact in childhood years and beyond.
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Sanya Pelini
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