On Quartz, Sonali Kohlireports that taking things away from kids when they do something bad led them to be more insecure as adults, and that insecurity made them associate material things with success.
Also, studies have shown that people who associate material things with success and status are more likely to blow traumatic events out of proportion, and to experience depression, loneliness, and relationship troubles.
via Parents are unconsciously setting their kids up to be materialists with fragile egos - Quartz.
It is clear to me now, two kids and two different experiences later: our babies are born ready. All they need is for us to be ready to listen, and respond.
I had no idea how infuriating the question “how can I help?” would be when there was a sink full of bottles and an empty fridge. Mom friends to the rescue.
Beyond knowing how to handle a tantrum to avoid public embarrassment, we can begin to view them as a valuable opportunity to teach our children life skills.
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